Contentment In Motherhood
It can be puzzling at times. You wonder if you’ll ever have it all figured out. Will you ever find yourself again in this beautiful chaos? At times you feel your energy is depleted but you also don’t want to miss out on the present because you are hoping for better days.
The challenges encountered in motherhood don’t reduce the joy of the precious moments shared with our little ones but it doesn’t make it easier either. We simply take one day at time and we learn and grow together through it all.
I believe we’ve all had our idea of how motherhood would be and for me, it didn’t include tantrums and sleepless nights. Motherhood does not only demand so much of me physically but emotionally too. It’s about spending most of the day away from my kids and at times feeling bad about it only to remind myself that I still matter.
As you strive for better, to be better and putting in the energy to achieve that; have you ever taken a moment to stop and ask yourself whether you are content? It’s easy to be so focused on the pursuit of whatever it is we desire of ourselves that we forget the moment, the true joy that comes with being content and happy with our very present.
Motherhood seems to be about constantly being busy. You are forever trying to get things done and you might be wondering how you can be content and happy seeing all that motherhood brings along with it.
Acknowledge that you are learning
Motherhood is a learning experience and you are not only instilling values to your kids but you are also evolving and growing through the experience as a person. Be kind to yourself because although you might not always get it right, your best is good enough. I have come to realise that moms are often not sympathetic but rather judgmental towards other moms although they have experienced the challenges of motherhood themselves. Refuse to be pressurized by the unrealistic standards set by society and choose to live in contentment because you are the best mom for your kids.
Find joy in the chaos
Whatever you focus on will grow. Rather than magnifying the challenges, choose to be a happy mom and approach each day with the attitude that says no matter what comes your way, you will be happy and create a pleasant environment for your family.
Embrace motherhood as a part of who you are
You will forever be a mom to your kids no matter how old they get. You will always be their safe space and a place they run to for comfort. Moms should not only see motherhood as a phase that they hope to ubandon but a part of them that they will learn and grow through.
Be grateful for the present
Rather than wishing this time will pass, teach yourself to be grateful for the opportunity God has granted you to raise your kids and to be a teacher and nurturer for the time that they are in your care. Gratitude cultivates joy. Every single day you get to raise your little ones is a blessing therefore make the choice to see it as such. Create ways to enjoy and have fun with your kids and those moments will be forever etched in their hearts.
Feeling content doesn’t mean that everything around you is perfect but it comes from having the assurance that you have been blessed with the ability to walk through your motherhood journey and believing that the moments shared and lessons learnt grately outweigh the challenges encountered.
Love,
Muhluri
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