Four Reasons Moms Need Their Friends

Four Reasons Moms Need Their Friends

Motherhood brings along with it a lot of changes into our lives and friendships are not spared.  There are so many beliefs out there like ‘once you are a mom, it’s hard to keep friends and even harder for  those friends that aren’t moms yet’. Well, I beg to differ.

Maintaining friendships can seem to have been easier before starting a family because I had more time to go on lunch dates but  it’s also true that as my life changes, i need my friends even more. It’s possible that you can be going through similar life experiences with your friends but most often, you will find that you are all in very different phases of life.

I have come to realize that as I grow , the relationship with my friends is constantly evolving and we have come to value our support for each other much more than the physical presence.

Whether they are mothers or non-mothers, here are four reasons you need all your friends as a mom.

 They advice you from experience

Mommy friends who have had kids before me are simply reference books and a shoulder to cry on when I feel overwhelmed. I know that our experiences as moms will differ because we are different and so are our kids but it’s reassuring to know that someone else has gone through what you are going through and that in the end, it will be ok.

 They remind you to remain true to yourself

I appreciate my friends who are not moms because they remind me of who I am outside of motherhood. It’s so refreshing to hear their views on life without being clouded by the thought of the huge responsibility that comes with motherhood.

Your friendship changes for the better

Being in different phases of life with your friends means you are learning from each other. The friendship is not the same but both parties are in a process of growing and it makes the friendship even better. Distance is also not a factor at all. The level of growth is such that we are reassured of our love and support for each other although we are miles apart.

It’s not easy to make new friends

Friendship is about shared values and hence building friendships is not something that happens overnight. I’m open to meeting new people and getting to know them better but it’s honestly quite hard to find a connection to match what has been built over a number of years. Friendships that have stood the test of time are to be treasured and built on. Becoming a mom on the other hand is no reason to let go of these friendships.

As much as our lives change and there’s distance between us, it’s possible to keep the communication channels open and continue to share your life journey and support each other as friends.

With love,
Muhluri

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